Yep~ It has been a while since last logon to blogger.
So... a friend is getting married soon, in this May. To be exact, a not-so-closed old school mate is getting married, and I have been invited.
This is the very first time that I'm invited to attend a wedding dinner from a friend. Of cause I have been invited to attend to a wedding before, but that's my cousin's, I represented my family, and Mum said no giving angpao because I'm not married. So, I bought a gift. But this is a friend. I have no idea what to do next. Give money? Buy a gift? Give vouchers? What should I do? I consulted some closer friends. The suggestions are to give angpao because it saves time from shopping and easier, or vouchers, which I thought of.
According to experienced people, giving angpao for wedding needs some rules so that giver and receiver will be pleased. =.=
Big angpao is for closer family or friends, or just to "buy" "face" in case would to be invited. However, smaller angpao is for just not-so-closed friends or to "pay" for a "meal" in the wedding.
And most surprisingly, there is a hilarious practice that, some local people is so kiasu till they call up the restaurant of the wedding, to get to know how much is the package for dinner. So that, they will not give too much for the couples, for less luxurious restaurant and food. SHIT! Locally, "CELAKA!". Yes, indeed they are.
Come on... this is so disappointing. Wedding has become a business. Couples who get married no longer mean to share their happiness, but to market their wedding. That's what exactly shown in the movie of Ah Niu in "The Wedding Diary". I'm not advertising movie, but the truth is shown in the movie, now I finally understood.
Wedding is supposed to be happy for the newly-wed couple, not for earning extra angpao purposes. I thought so~
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Wednesday, November 21, 2012
特别的~
最近我们department的team members突然有了个共同话题-- 种草. 是一种草吧... 英文称为airplant. A同事带了几束这类的草分给大家后, 大家纷纷爱上种这类的植物了. 因为这airplant不需要泥土和施肥. B同事还特地去植物店买了另几样同种类的植物, 还特别请教老板怎么种得花儿朵朵开.
隔几天, 其他的同事各个真的很轻易地就把草儿"养"得开花了. 我也是放它在它的座位, 定时浇水, 但却渴死? 沿死? 热死了. 总之它死的那一刻是黑黑的, shrinked, dried... blah~ blah~ blah~
事后A同事得知,又再采一束给我...这草, 还真命苦... 在office, 颜色还顶绿绿的; 回到家, 就干巴巴的. 晚上原本想把它放在balcony吸收露水的, 旁边还放着一杯水呢, 谁知它竟然比我放在房子里还更枯干... 然而, 就想了个点子, 把它吊在窗口. 那里风不热也不强, 旁边依然放着一杯水.
过了一整天, 这果然有助于改善它的壮况. 当我坐窗口慢慢欣赏它时, 突然想起这几天所念的圣经故事... 当你真的有心照顾一个人的时候, 他日后会是特别的"好"; 但如果他被"放弃"了, 他就很难, 甚至不能survive了.
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| My fake tree with its' new friend Airplant |
事后A同事得知,又再采一束给我...这草, 还真命苦... 在office, 颜色还顶绿绿的; 回到家, 就干巴巴的. 晚上原本想把它放在balcony吸收露水的, 旁边还放着一杯水呢, 谁知它竟然比我放在房子里还更枯干... 然而, 就想了个点子, 把它吊在窗口. 那里风不热也不强, 旁边依然放着一杯水.
过了一整天, 这果然有助于改善它的壮况. 当我坐窗口慢慢欣赏它时, 突然想起这几天所念的圣经故事... 当你真的有心照顾一个人的时候, 他日后会是特别的"好"; 但如果他被"放弃"了, 他就很难, 甚至不能survive了.
Monday, November 12, 2012
A Soulmate or A "Jonathan"?
This is an interesting subject that comes to my mind when I read thoroghly through bibles, into the message of this bible verses 1 Samuel 20: 1- 42. This chapter tells about the storyline of King Saul felt threaten by David's reputation in the land after he successfully defeated enemies in battles.
Saul was very angry; this refrain galled him. "They have credited David with tens of thousands," he thought, "but me with only thousands. What more can he get but the kingdom?" 1 Samuel 18:8
King Saul attempted to kill David when he tried to protect his kingdom from fallen to David. Jonathan, the prince of King Saul, who has a very close relationship with David, "betrayed" his father, to protect David, and hide in enemy's territory.
Normally we will feel uncertain when comes to the time that we need to decide who to side with, especially when both are close to us. From this chapter, the bible told us that Jonathan sided David, he helped David to flee for his life, as he had no wrong against his father. And so he did not really feel bad about his father, because King Saul's motive was to protect the kingdom to be inherited by his next generations. But Jonathan did a very different decision, that he sided David, because God loved David and blessed him, and so he loved God and David.
The story teaches us to be right with who have faith in God, no matter how close the relationship we are. This is because the person who is faithful in God will be able to help us get right in the path where God wants us to walk to. And they will be the persons who will stick up with us.
So is soulmate more important of a "Jonathan" more important?
Saul was very angry; this refrain galled him. "They have credited David with tens of thousands," he thought, "but me with only thousands. What more can he get but the kingdom?" 1 Samuel 18:8
King Saul attempted to kill David when he tried to protect his kingdom from fallen to David. Jonathan, the prince of King Saul, who has a very close relationship with David, "betrayed" his father, to protect David, and hide in enemy's territory.
Normally we will feel uncertain when comes to the time that we need to decide who to side with, especially when both are close to us. From this chapter, the bible told us that Jonathan sided David, he helped David to flee for his life, as he had no wrong against his father. And so he did not really feel bad about his father, because King Saul's motive was to protect the kingdom to be inherited by his next generations. But Jonathan did a very different decision, that he sided David, because God loved David and blessed him, and so he loved God and David.
The story teaches us to be right with who have faith in God, no matter how close the relationship we are. This is because the person who is faithful in God will be able to help us get right in the path where God wants us to walk to. And they will be the persons who will stick up with us.
So is soulmate more important of a "Jonathan" more important?
Tuesday, August 28, 2012
放底要求
我凭着所赐我的恩对你们各人说: "不要看自己过于所当看的, 要照着神所分给各人信心的大小, 看得合乎中道. [罗12:3]
一个女人抱怨自己的丈夫, 牧师坐在那里听她说完.
最后他说: "如果妳能够成为一个比较好的妻子, 妳的婚姻就会比较幸福."
"我如何能够做到呢?"
"不要再抱怨, 要他成为妳心目中的好丈夫."
默想:
灵历箴言: 虽然世界不住的引诱, 肉体的情欲也蠢蠢欲动, 你不必惊恐, 倚仗神的话就必得胜.
一个女人抱怨自己的丈夫, 牧师坐在那里听她说完.
最后他说: "如果妳能够成为一个比较好的妻子, 妳的婚姻就会比较幸福."
"我如何能够做到呢?"
"不要再抱怨, 要他成为妳心目中的好丈夫."
默想:
- 犹大期待耶稣带来政治上的改变. 当他发现耶稣并无意改变他们民族的命运时, 他就对耶稣失望, 并背叛了他.
- 对人会失望, 是因为我们对他们有不正确的期望. 以自己的目标和标准来衡量一个人,只会拉远了彼此之间的关系; 因为最终你会发现原来他与你心中所期待的是相差那么远.
- 细腻小心的人, 无法要求有雄心的人与他一起那么细腻. 因为有雄心的人看到整片森林的宏景, 但细腻小心的人却观赏研究森林的里头. 但是, 若要求那满有雄心的人对各样事情小心细腻, 最后他将失去他所看见远景的本能. 两者各有特长, 若能互相配搭, 则是最美的.
灵历箴言: 虽然世界不住的引诱, 肉体的情欲也蠢蠢欲动, 你不必惊恐, 倚仗神的话就必得胜.
Monday, August 27, 2012
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